A Yes Person Can Say No - Fear While Talking to People - Even a Goldfish has Emotions

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 31 January 2016

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

If you're a "yes person", you find yourself saying "Yes" to others. However, what you're really doing is saying "No" to yourself. Doing this causes you to reach burn out after a number of years. You get jaded by friends and family taking advantage of your "generosity", all because you're too nice to say no. There's a way out of this, and it will take baby steps, but it's time to gain some empowerment and start saying "Yes" to yourself. In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from a woman who starts to feel fear when talking to people, whether that's because she feels stupid or like she's being judged. No matter what causes it, I talk about a couple of approaches that take the fear out of the equation. Finally, I change things up and talk about animals and emotions. In my opinion, there is absolutely emotions in animals - it's a non-issue, but no matter what you believe, this segment explains my experience with the subject and how I can tell emotions are at play and not just animal instinct. Episode brought to you by getoutofthemess.com

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0:00.0	Today's episode of the overwhelmed brain is brought to you by you, because without you, there would be no T.
0:10.0	Are you annoyed by affirmations?
0:13.0	Don't you just love it when you're told to...
0:16.0	Think positively!
0:18.0	If I can still be happy after having to pay taxes from my lottery winnings,
0:22.0	you can find happiness in spite of your losses too.
0:26.3	If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial, then get ready to start
0:31.7	creating the life you've always wanted now. Hello this is Paul Kolyani your personal empowerment coach and host of the overwhelmed brain the personal growth show for the critical
0:56.2	thinker. On every episode we'll talk about practical down-to-earth steps to help you improve your mood and keep you sane in this powerful journey,
1:07.0	Recall Life. I want to help you bridge the gap between your emotions and reason,
1:12.0	causing you to discover why you do the things you do and
1:15.9	what you can do to reach higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and overwhelm.
1:21.8	If you're here to learn more common sense tips for improving your life,
1:26.0	you are in the wrong place.
1:29.0	This is the direct path to uncommon sense,
1:32.0	and that's why it's going to help you learn, heal, grow, and
1:36.8	evolve. And speaking of evolving, let me read you today's quote which is by Miranda Kerr. It's this. A nice person is a yes
1:47.0	person. Whereas a good person is a person who accepts their responsibility in things and moves forward and tries to constantly
1:55.5	evolve and isn't afraid to say no or challenge someone or be honest or truthful. The funny thing about this quote is that it pretty much wraps up the entire
2:08.0	overwhelmed brain concept. It's my philosophy. It's everything that I talk about here. It's authenticity. It's
2:17.0	honoring yourself and your personal boundaries. It's doing what you want to do for yourself and just being a good person to you.
2:28.0	For so many years I was a yes person and the people in my life friends and family would not see that as a fault.
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