TPP 472: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Transforming Conflict Into Connection with our Teens

Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Debbie Reber

Education, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 28 October 2025

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Today we’re talking about one of my favorite topics — what it really means to connect, collaborate, and let go of control as our kids grow into themselves as they enter the transformative teen years. My guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and parent coach who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens, and the author of the brand new book, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. In our conversation, Ann-Louise shares insights from her book and offers a powerful reframing of what it means to parent through the teen years. We talk about shifting from control to curiosity—especially when raising neurodivergent kids—along with individuation, cognitive dissonance, and why living a fulfilling life as a parent is one of the best ways to model healthy behaviors for our teens. She also reminds us that it’s never too late to repair, reconnect, and love the teen we have right now. About Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens. As the founder of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, she empowers families to move from chaos to connection using practical tools rooted in clinical expertise and real-life parenting. She is the author of an upcoming book launching October 28, 2025 titled, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. She has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and on The Today Show. Her dynamic, relatable style has made her a trusted voice for parents nationwide. Things you'll learn from this episode Why it’s never too late to repair and rebuild connection with your teen How curiosity helps parents better understand what’s really driving their teen’s behavior Why focusing on connection over control leads to stronger, more trusting relationships How individuation is a healthy and necessary part of adolescence for both teens and parents Why modeling a fulfilling, authentic life can positively influence your child’s growth How resetting expectations and embracing collaboration can transform communication and repair past ruptures Resources mentioned Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s author website Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart A New Day Pediatric Psychology (Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s practice) Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Instagram Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Facebook Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s YouTube channel Chris Voss & The Art of Negotiation (Masterclass) Lighthouse Parenting: Raising your Child with Loving Guidance for an Enduring Bond by Dr. Ken Ginsburg Maggie Dent on How to Parent, Love & Support Today’s Teens (Full-Tilt Parenting) Education Leader Chris Balme on Navigating the Tricky Middle School Years (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I'm Debbie Reber and you are listening to Full Tilt Parenting. And today we're talking about
0:07.5	one of my favorite topics, what it really means to connect, collaborate, and let go of control
0:13.2	as our kids grow into themselves as they enter those transformative teen years. My guest is Dr.
0:20.1	Anne Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent
0:23.3	coach, and author who helps overwhelm parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens.
0:29.1	She's the founder of a new day pediatric psychology and has been featured in the New York
0:33.5	Times, parents, Huff Post, and on the Today Show. And her new book, Love the Teen You Have,
0:39.1	A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict into Connection is what we'll be talking about today.
0:44.6	I loved this book. And actually, it comes out today as you're listening to this episode.
0:49.0	So in this conversation, Anne Louise shares insights from her book and offers a powerful
0:53.9	reframing of what it means to parent
0:56.2	through those teen years. We talk about shifting from control to curiosity, along with individuation,
1:03.7	cognitive dissonance, and why living a fulfilling life as a parent is actually one of the best ways
1:09.0	to model healthy behaviors for our teens.
1:12.0	Anne Louise also reminds us that it's never too late to repair, reconnect, and love the teen we
1:17.2	have right now. Such a great conversation. A reminder, if you want to watch this, you can head
1:23.5	over to my YouTube channel. It's full tilt parenting. While you're there, please subscribe, maybe share it with a friend or two. We're trying to my YouTube channel. It's Full Tilt Parenting. While you're there, please subscribe,
1:28.8	maybe share it with a friend or two. We're trying to really grow that community. Thank you so much.
1:34.1	And now here's my conversation with Dr. Anne Louise Lockhart.
1:39.6	Hey, Dr. Lockhart. Welcome back to the podcast. Thanks, Debbie. Happy to talk about your new book,
1:46.9	which I just had a chance to read. I'm very excited about it. Before we talk about that,
1:51.3	you have been on the show before, and I'm going to have a link in the show notes. Listeners,
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