Touching Therapists, Butlers, and Immoral Kirk
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 21 February 2024
⏱️ 112 minutes
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00:00 Safety in therapy
03:30 Boundaries in therapy
09:41 Is it ok to ask for physical touch in therapy?
40:15 Recognizing and accepting your needs
1:08:42 Is it ok to go to therapy without a goal?
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February 21, 2024
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob emails, what do you say? Yeah. |
| 0:02.6 | Anonymous patron, she says, hello Kirk and Bob. |
| 0:06.0 | The way that you both share insights into the process of healing |
| 0:09.8 | and relational therapy has helped be so much. So just chime in. So the way you both |
| 0:14.9 | share insights into the process of healing and relational therapy has been |
| 0:18.4 | helpful to me. That's cool. Both Kirk's experience from years of doing this work and especially Bob's insights into his personal |
| 0:25.9 | therapy have helped me to understand that my own experience is not that unusual. |
| 0:31.9 | You reassured me that feelings I find too shame. not that |
| 0:33.4 | feelings I find too shameful to speak about are actually normal or even healthy. |
| 0:38.4 | And this allowed me to raise them my feelings with my therapist with less fear that she would react badly. |
| 0:45.6 | Recently I feel a real shift within me and I wanted to thank you for that. |
| 0:50.5 | That's lovely thank you. So just chiming in here Bob what do you think that's |
| 0:54.0 | thank you for writing and telling us this really lovely to hear thanks going out |
| 0:58.6 | with email one of my issues in therapy has always been struggling with trust and struggling to believe |
| 1:05.4 | that my therapist really cares about me. In my worst moments I thought she |
| 1:09.7 | actively wanted to harm me. Wow It was it was extremely distressing and frustrating. |
| 1:16.0 | Recently this has improved hugely and I feel like I can feel that my therapist cares about me and supports me even when I'm not with her. |
| 1:27.4 | So just chiming in. |
| 1:28.9 | In her longer email she's talking about how she would in session achieve trust, but then a few days after the session, |
| 1:36.7 | she would return to my therapist doesn't really care about me, and then a few days later, my therapist might be actively trying to get me. |
| 1:45.8 | Of course this has to do with schemas developed in a situation in which you had an attachment |
| 1:52.0 | figure that was actually at the very least giving you a very reasonable impression that not only is your attachment figure not there for you caring you, but actually is actively working against you. |
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