On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everybody. I am Brandon Chadwick. And today we are going to talk about the question that a lot of

people always ask themselves, am I the narcissist? And it's always a big question while you're

in the relationship and especially when you're

out of the relationship that people have these feelings that they might be the one who was

the problem in the relationship.

And it's because of a lot of the crazy making that was going on.

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Fill out our guest form page, press the submit button, or send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse

at gmail.com. And when we talk about, am I the narcissist? The abuser in the situation wants three things, really, either for you to feel shame,

feel guilt, or have doubt.

And whenever any of those three things are involved, you might not be able to look at the

situation in a normal way, normal meaning, um, with clarity, if that makes sense.

So let's just discuss shame and guilt right off the back here and the difference between

the two.

So guilt is a feeling you get when you did something wrong or perceived you did something wrong.

And shame is a feeling that your whole self is wrong.

And when it comes to guilt, guilt has you apologize, attempt to repair things, and you feel compassion for others.

And when it comes to shame, shame has you internally feeling like you have more, a lower self-esteem

about yourself, if that makes sense.

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