On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Susie Wendell.

How are you?

I'm good. How are you doing today?

I am doing well. Thank you for asking. And for those that don't know you, Susie Wendell is a trauma

recovery coach, a narcissistic abuse

specialist, and an MSW candidate.

And today we are going to be discussing the 10 rules for going no contact with an abuser.

But first, let's discuss the why is this needed. So tell us why this is needed, Susie.

Yeah, I'll do that. So going no contact is really important when you're looking to move forward after an abusive relationship.

There's a number of reasons why.

First of all, there's this thing called a trauma bond.

I'm not sure if you've done any episodes on a trauma bond,

but I don't want to get into it too much here, but it's basically a bond that forms between the abuser and the victim

that comes from the cycle of abuse, that intermittent reinforcement

that happens during an abuse cycle.

There's highs and there's lows and there's these, you know, moments where the relationship

where things feel okay and then there's these moments of you know complete terror and abuse happening so

it's that cycle of abuse that cements a trauma bond between the victim and the abuser so going no

contact is the most critical piece to actually breaking that that trauma bond so that i would say is

number one um the next piece kind of goes along

with it that healing, in order for healing to take place, you can't be living in chaos. So it's

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