Kris & The Conniving Coercive Controller

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Relationships, Education, True Crime, Society & Culture, Self-improvement

4.7 • 792 Ratings

🗓️ 25 January 2026

⏱️ 122 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Kris shares her journey of surviving childhood trauma and escaping an abusive relationship with a narcissistic partner. Growing up in a chaotic household with an authoritarian father, Kris learned early on to seek external validation and to read the moods of those around her for survival. These patterns primed her for manipulation, and when she met her future husband as a teenager, she became entangled in an isolating, controlling relationship marked by emotional abuse, intermittent reinforcement, gaslighting, and escalating physical abuse.

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Chris, and Chris was married to a conniving coercive controller.
0:10.5	It's a story of generational trauma, future faking, intermittent reinforcement, financial abuse, minimization, gaslighting, isolation, guilt, and intimidation. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:48.8	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Chris.
0:53.5	How are you? I'm doing good. How are you doing?
0:57.0	I am doing well and thank you for asking. And if you want to be a guest like Chris is today,
1:03.8	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form at the top of the page and inside you can fill out that guest form or you can email us at Narcissist Apocalypse at p.m.m.m. Also join our newsletter on our website. We started a weekly newsletter, including a workbook for this episode that you can download from our newsletter.
1:31.6	And so far, people have found our workbooks very helpful.
1:34.8	It's a very valuable tool in understanding what's happened in your relationship.
1:40.2	In the newsletter, you get these five things, five reflections as well inside there to
1:46.4	kind of go over your own relationship, what's happened inside the relationship, outside
1:50.9	the relationship, your feelings, everything within the episode, how it reflects upon your
1:55.8	life as well. And people really like it and it's free. So go to our website on the front page. You should be
2:02.9	able to find a newsletter sign up or we're going to leave a link in our show notes. And this episode
2:10.2	does have a content warning as we do discuss physical abuse, sexual abuse and reproductive control
2:15.5	in this episode. And today you're going to hear Chris's story and Chris grew up in abuse and reproductive control in this episode.
2:21.4	And today you're going to hear Chris's story and Chris grew up in abuse.
2:25.0	And leaving the home became a priority for her.
2:32.1	And unfortunately, it was to live with someone who was even more controlling than her family was than her dad was.
2:35.6	And Chris's story has all the elements of course to control. The abuser became the truth teller in her world. And from then on with the intermittent reinforcement,
2:41.2	Chris was constantly on her back foot, you know, reacting, questioning herself and
2:46.4	unable to leave. So many of you will be validated by Chris's story today. And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way. Chris, the floor is now yours.
2:58.8	So I grew up in Sacramento, California, small town just outside of it. My mom ran a daycare from the house. My dad worked in pest control.
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