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Hi, this is Janet Landsbury and I'm going to talk a bit today about handling our children's

toy battles.

Now I've written a lot about handling conflicts between children, so I'm excited to have

this opportunity to verbally demonstrate some of the interventions that I recommend.

These interventions work because they are minimal, and that means that the adults are doing

less for the children and allowing children to do and therefore learn more.

Children are able to experience and even resolve safe, age-appropriate struggles, express

their feelings, gain social intelligence and confidence.

These minimal interventions also help children join each other in play, which is actually

what they are trying to do, rather than each focusing separately on a toy, which is what

generally happens when we say, okay, now it's his turn and then it's going to be your turn,

or she had it first, or now it's time to share that toy with your friend, which usually

means give it away to your friend.

Now I realize there's kind of lifting advice out there, and as I mentioned in my post play

date rules that limit learning, when sifting through all the wonderful parenting advice

out there about all kinds of things, it's important, I believe, to ask ourselves, what

are our goals?

Young children learn to socialize when they have safe, experiential learning opportunities.

This is the way children learn best, but this isn't about leaving them to just figure

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