Tiff & The Controlling Water Torturer | Narcissistic Abuse

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🗓️ 11 November 2024

⏱️ 80 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks to Tiff about her relationship with a dehumanizing abuser. Tiff met her ex at a 12-step meeting. He seemed like the protector type. But what Tiff didn't know was that the protection she'd need would be from him. Soon after her ex became comfortable in the relationship, the putdowns began, which turned into gaslighting, deflecting responsibility, and manipulative behavior in his attempts to have Tiff conform to his needs. It's a story of criticism, put downs, double standards, control, power, conforming, jealousy, competition, dehumanization, demands, the waterer torturer, button pushing, deflecting responsibility, gaslighting, being a burden, misogyny, and empathy. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Tiff, and Tiff was in a relationship with a dehumanizing abuser.
0:11.9	It's a story of put-downs, button-pushing, deflecting responsibility, misogyny, and power.
0:36.1	Music misogyny and power. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have TIF. How are you?
0:46.3	I'm doing great. Thanks for asking. Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like TIF is today, please do go to our website at
0:56.2	Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form button at the top of the page.
1:01.1	And there you can read all of our instructions.
1:03.4	And please read them all and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com
1:08.2	or fill out the guest form and press the submit button and please do send
1:12.5	it in the format that we ask for. And there is no content warning for today's episode, for today's
1:19.4	survivor's story. And today you're going to hear Tiff's story. And Tiff was in a relationship with
1:24.3	a water torturer from Lundy Bancroft's list of abuser types in the book,
1:29.1	why does he do that? And this made Tiff really question what was really going on. So a big thank
1:36.0	you to Tiff for being here. And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way. Tiff, the floor is now
1:43.3	yours.
1:46.1	Thank you for having me.
1:49.0	In my family life growing up was, it was pretty chaotic.
1:56.8	It was a very loving home.
1:59.4	I grew up with pretty decent, like, financial security and privilege, but there was a lot of, like, emotional depravity in a lot of ways. I have two siblings, and they used pretty hard drugs. They were in and out of our home.
2:18.0	And my mom had a pretty severe mental illness.
2:22.8	And my father held a position that was pretty high up.
2:29.3	So he was working a lot and just not really present.
2:32.1	And my parents got divorced when I was young. and I was never close with my stepfather.
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