Hello, welcome to or welcome back to Trinette to Care. If you're new here, my name is Ashley.

I upload pretty much every single Monday and we sit down, we chit chat, we have a good time.

And today we're just going to jump right into the episode. No long intro. It's not necessary.

So this episode's going to be for anyone who might be struggling with letting go of a person or a situation.

Maybe you're going through a friendship breakup or you and your boyfriend or you and your girlfriend broke up and you're feeling really hopeless and you don't know how to move on.

I have definitely been there.

We know this.

I've gone through some very difficult times. And when you go through something traumatic or heartbreaking, the moments following

it, the days following it, the weeks following it, the months following it, they're really hard.

And it's really isolating and lonely. When you're in the thick of it, it's hard to see the light at the end

of the tunnel. It's hard to see any way forward because you're just so hurt. So in today's

episode, I'm going to share with you the three-year healing rule, which is a type

of framework that people use to describe the emotional timeline of healing.

The three-year rule is really helpful for one, giving yourself grace throughout the healing

process, kind of being a reminder that you're not going to heal overnight.

And two, it gives you structure and a guideline on things that you can be doing to get better and to move on in a

productive way. When I went through really hard friendship breakups or really messy romantic

breakups and I didn't know how to cope with the aftermath of it,

you know, all the emotions I had, the loss of this person or the loss of this relationship,

the reality that I would have to exist without this person or without these people.

I genuinely did not know how to move forward because I couldn't see a path that would lead me forward.

And it felt like that feeling went on forever, especially with those romantic breakups.

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