Hey everybody welcome back to the personality hacker podcast my name is Joe Mark Witt and I'm

Antonia Dutch today we have a special guest with us his name is Jason Gattis he's a dad he's a husband he's a relationship expert and he's the

host of the smart couple podcast Jason welcome to personality hacker

thanks guys what's up?

You, uh, so you're, you're out in Boulder, Colorado and you work up.

You work in the relationship field helping people, I guess, create amazing relationships with each other how did you I mean what's like

what's your story how did you get to this place why are you doing this where did you come

from what's going on for you yeah Yeah, well, I'll answer the story part,

and maybe it'll tag into some of the other questions

you just threw in there.

I was a pretty big failure at relationship and in my 20s I was the guy a little bit of a

player I would move from relationship to relationship woman to woman and the grass was always greener somewhere else and I always made the

woman I was dating wrong and I always found some kind of fault with her and looking

back on it what I was doing was any time she needed something and started getting emotional and wanted to have the talk

I got uncomfortable and I would blame her for my discomfort and leave and move on because I didn't want

discomfort. I thought that relationship meant that it was supposed to feel good all the

time. I thought that the warm fuzzies of that

or the early few months, the honeymoon period, were supposed to last and I really was hooked

into that. So when it got hard or intense or she got emotional, I was like out,

peace out. And I did that seven times and after my seventh failed relationship, I finally realized that I was the one common

denominator in all those failures.

And it was a massive insight, life-changing moment in time.

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