Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

If you identify as a people pleaser as someone who always wants to make it comfortable and nice and good and sweet and relaxed with everyone around you, sometimes at the cost of yourself, your own energy, your own time, your own resources, this is for you.

Now I am a people-pleaser. This is something that I think I'll always work on to a point and that's okay with me because I love getting to know myself more intimately as I continue to expand.

And just when I think, you know, I've set great boundaries or, you know, I'm free of this need to please,

there's always a whole new level or the universe like taps me on the shoulder with a request from someone I really love who's probably asking me for something

who I really really don't want to let it down and once again I'm back in that position of going

ooh okay am I going to please in this situation or am I

going to be true to myself? Now of all the research, work, self-help, I mean look I'm a life coach, I'm obsessed with this stuff, right?

Of all of the work that I've done on ameliorating my own people pleasing, this is the one thing, the one truth that I keep coming back to that

allows me to really remain true to who I am, what it is that I mean, what it is that I want to say, what it is that is actually

really going to work for me when I am speaking from my heart with no filter, with no agenda, simply speaking as truth. And it's this. It's understanding that

people pleasing doesn't mean that you're sweet, doesn't mean that you're sweet doesn't mean that you're

extremely loveable and accepting and caring doesn't mean that you're generous

although all those all those things can also be true for you and certainly pleases have a

lot of those gorgeous tendencies like I love to consider

myself to be a generous person I love to consider myself as a person who cares deeply

about others those feel true for me. But people pleasing is not the same thing.

The truth is that I keep coming back to when it comes to a moment here where I know I'm leaning into my

pleasing and I'm stepping away from myself I'm like kind of getting out of my

body and putting somebody else's needs first. The truth that I come back to when I'm confronted with this,

this opportunity to once again stand in my truth versus please, is that people

pleasing isn't generous, kind, sweet, nice, loving.

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