Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

For all the people at your treats or the women who are watching or listening at home that just

want to find their match, their partner, what's the first step they can take to start getting out of the weeds of like failure

after failure and start seeing some progress to greater potential matches?

A couple of things. I mean firstly there's a guy called John Kaye who wrote a book called

Obliquity.

And the whole idea of the book was,

obliqueity is when you reach goals through indirect means.

So if you take building a business,

if your goal is to make money,

instead of focusing on making money,

focus on all the things that provide value to people. Yeah.

Because the making money part will be the byproduct.

If you focus on, I need to get rich, I need to get rich, I need to get rich, I need to get rich,

you're probably not going to do the things that are going to get you rich.

Right.

Because what makes you financially wealthy, the relationships you take time to build, often for a long time,

you don't ask for anything, you don't even care to, you're just building, you know, the

products that you create for no reason, then you just think that they're great, or that you think they have value,

or whatever, the service that you provide people, it's just, it's not, what's the quickest way for me

to make money? Most people like that don't get rich. In a relationship, there's all these things

that build a relationship that really have nothing to, that don't feel like they have anything

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