Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

This is what they'll remember. They won't remember the clothes you bought them. They won't have

any idea how much time you spent or the things you gave up. They won't remember most of the advice you gave them. They won't remember most of the things you said. What they'll remember, as we said recently, is the vibes. Bill Bryson, decades later, remembered a trip to Mackinac Island in Michigan with his family.

They hadn't even been there five minutes when he stepped in horse manure, as he writes in The Lost

Continent, a great book we talked about it recently. My mother cleaned up my shoe with a twig and a

Kleenex, gagging delicately, he recalled. And as soon as she put the shoe back on my foot,

I stepped backwards into some more with my other shoe. What stood out to him from this experience,

returning to the scene all those years later, was that his mother hadn't gotten upset at this

ridiculous and frustrating scene. My mother never got cross, he said. She didn't exactly do

cartwheels, you understand, but she didn't

shout or snap or look as though she were suppressing apoplexy, as I do with my children when they

step in something warm and squishy, as they always do. She just looked kind of tired for a moment,

and then she grinned and said it was a good thing. She loved me. Of course, you love them, but do you

think they feel it? Will they remember your patience or your temper, your care, or your exasperation?

The vibes remember matter.

Hey, you're listening to the Daily Dad podcast, one meditation a day inspired to help you do your

most important job, which is be a great father.

These are meditations inspired by ancient wisdom, psychological research, and just great strategies

from normal dads just like you.

Thanks for listening.

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