Well, last week we talked about selfishness, which we discovered is the root beneath every relationship problem.

This week, we're going to talk about neglect.

What happens when you stop pursuing and stop prioritizing your spouse and stop showing up?

Selfishness is what starts the problem. Neglect is what eventually

kills the relationship. And the principle that we're going to build upon today is this. You know

it's true, but I want to drive it home, and the truth is this, that nothing you neglect gets better.

You know this. You neglect your body, put anything in it,

your body doesn't get better. Neglect your relationship with God. It doesn't get better.

Neglect your relationship with your friends, with your children. It doesn't get better.

And the same is true with merit. It's interesting because we know this in other areas of our life.

For example, you would never, let's say, skip your oil change for two years

and then wonder why your engine dies.

But somehow, when it comes to our relationships,

we stop investing in our marriage and we wonder why it falls apart.

And the principle is because of this, because whatever you stop feeding starts dying.

And that's why most relationships don't die from conflict, they actually die from neglect. I illustrate this.

Years ago, Amy and I lived next to some of the nicest people that were so hard to live next to

because they were the yard of the month king and queens.

Some of you are those people.

God bless you.

You're hard to live next to.

They won the yard of the month every month.

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