The Perture.

So you're having issues in your relationship and you can't seem to put your finger on exactly

what's wrong.

Cassie has found a list of things that could be causing tension in your relationship

that you don't even realize are happening.

Okay, Cass, bring it.

So it all has to do with how you were raised and it's really, really interesting.

There's an author named Mary Robinette Koal who talked about this and basically it has

to do with something called ask culture and guess culture culture.

And it's a small difference.

She says in the manner that can create huge conflicts between characters and in your

relationships.

So what this means is you have to look at your childhood and did you come from something

called an ask culture or a guess culture and it's how you ask for help.

So I'm pretty short.

If I need to get something off a tall shelf and I'm talking to my husband, would I say,

I can't reach the cereal.

It's on the top shelf, which is the example she uses or would I say, can you please get

the cereal down for me?

I can't.

I can't reach it.

Now if you coming from a guess culture, it is super rude to ask someone to do something

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