Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Good to be with you today.

Thank you for joining me.

I'm going to talk about a couple messages that I received.

I'm going to read them to you and we'll see where we go with them.

This person wrote they were an emotionally abusive relationship for over a year and a half and it was confusing and they

started going to a therapist and they said that they asked their ex, I guess he's the ex now,

for clarity on the behaviors and what they could do better, a person who wrote.

And she goes on to say, I made mistakes in the relationship as well, and that caused it to end.

He told me it was up to me to F it up, as he would put it, the full word.

I'm not going to say it, but you get the idea.

I would often tell him that statements like that set me up to fail.

I paid for quite a few things for him and he contributed some, but then he didn't finish contributing,

and I had to pay for some other stuff. She goes on to say that he

makes a lot more than she does. And she said, again, I made some terrible mistakes and I own

them and I took accountability and I'm responsible for them and I'm actively changing my behavior.

He doesn't want to repair the relationship, but randomly wants to see me.

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