Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

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Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thanks for joining me for another episode of love and abuse. I'm going to get right into today's message, which is from somebody who wrote and said, I want to start off by thanking you for what you

do. I'm writing to you because my husband has been very emotionally abusive and neglectful for the

last several years.

I had our daughter not too long ago, and about a few months into my pregnancy, he started

telling me that he would treat me better when the baby comes.

That hurt me very deeply, but it was true.

He had been, or he has been treating me better ever since she was born.

The abuse is still there, but it's not constant and it's not every day.

He also started going to therapy and taking medication.

I feel like a switch was flipped in my mind and now it's almost as if I'm a less bad version

of him.

He's doing better but I'm starting to treat him poorly.

I feel so guilty that I feel like I don't love him anymore or I have so much resentment

toward him that I just don't feel any empathy or sympathy for him anymore.

He's doing better and now I'm the hurtful one.

I'm starting to go to therapy as well and hopefully find myself and be a good person

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