Hey, everyone. Welcome back to Heal, Survive, and Thrive. Let's talk about moving on really quickly,

more so someone who you were in a relationship with. I think it's one of the most painful things

that you can go through because you feel very invisible, almost like you didn't matter,

that everything that you have went through with this person just kind of gets wiped away very quickly because maybe you get discarded or maybe you left the relationship, quite frankly, but they just seem to effortlessly move on with their life and find a new person and you're here like still struggling and barely breathing from what it is that you just went through

that you can't even like fathom getting close to someone again let me just stop right there

and say that that's normal like it is not normal to be able to get out of a relationship

especially a long term one and immediately give yourself to another person.

I'm sorry, it's just, it's completely not normal.

Now, the length of time that you need to like be single before you can start dating again,

I don't think that there's like a, like a certain period of time where you should be alone,

but there should be some kind of like recouping or

getting back to you feeling what it feels like to be single and I mean that only from the

perspective of I need to be good in my own skin so I attract the right people going forward

and healing and reflecting and learning and all the

things some people may totally disagree they may just say you know what absolutely no out one one ship

onto another like you know who cares it's fine we can learn as we go type of a thing um I personally

don't believe that I for me every time a relationship ends, I need a breather.

I need to get back to me.

I need to like find myself again.

Like I'm not jumping from one relationship to the next.

And there are people and I'm sure you know them and I know them as well,

that that's what they've done throughout their whole life.

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