Therapy Thursdays: Love, Trust & Difficult Conversations

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 June 2026

⏱️ 20 minutes

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In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we’re answering listener questions about the messy, tender, and sometimes confusing parts of relationships. We talk about what it means when someone says “I love you” very early on, how relationships naturally move through different stages, and what to do when the romance starts to fade. We also explore the painful reality of betrayal — including what repair can look like after cheating, and how to know whether your partner is truly respecting the process of rebuilding trust. This episode also looks at conflict and communication: how to bring up difficult issues with your partner, family, or friends when confrontation feels scary or overwhelming. In this episode, we cover: Whether saying “I love you” after two weeks is genuine love, infatuation, or a possible red flag The different stages relationships often go through First steps toward repair after infidelity What it means when a partner pressures you to accept contact with the person they cheated with How to talk about losing the spark in a long-term relationship Why romance and effort can fade after the honeymoon phase How to approach hard conversations when you hate confrontation The difference between healthy communication and avoiding conflict 🎙️ More about John: 📘 Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4 John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Things you would never bring up in therapy, you could bring up here.
0:05.0	A new guy said I love you after only two weeks.
0:18.0	Is that possible or is it a red flag? Have you ever sat with someone
0:24.8	maybe engaged in conversation on a rock by a fire underneath stars and you felt so
0:31.7	connected to that person in that moment? You said, I love you or you say, hey, I want to say I love you because you're too
0:40.3	embarrassed to say, I love you. So you say, hey, I want to say, I love you. It's so weird.
0:48.0	Okay, you might have been 12. But here's the thing. I think you could quote unquote fall in
0:52.9	love with someone after a day, you know, I think it's about the connection. It's not about the time frame and I think it's important to stay away from timeframes that, you know, are based on society should. So I think you should say I love you if you feel honest and that feels honest to you and not worry about when the other person is saying it, you know, if the person is saying it too fast, is that weird and creepy?
1:18.6	Is it if the person saying it or not saying it, you know, then are you wasting your time?
1:23.6	So we live in a world where we put a lot of pressure and judgment on the I love you.
1:29.3	And so I would stay away from that. Just be honest with yourself. Express it when you feel
1:34.5	truth, when you feel that it's honest, not don't play games, not when he says it or because he
1:41.3	didn't say it like don't use it as bait just say it if you feel it okay now
1:45.6	that being said two weeks it's it's not that long of it's now is it two weeks as in an intense
1:53.5	magical trip where you're seeing it's that person every single day right um are you traveling
1:59.3	together are you did you guys go somewhere? Because that,
2:02.1	that seems fair. Or is it two weeks and you've only had breakfast and FaceTime once, right? I don't know.
2:08.2	That's a little strange. If you feel too early, don't avoid it. Don't judge it. Actually,
2:12.6	go to the source and say, hey, listen, we've only shook hands and had one FaceTime.
2:20.1	I met you two weeks ago.
2:22.3	I barely remember your name and you're saying I love you, so it feels a little weird
2:26.9	and express it, right?
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