Therapist Reveals Sneaky Manipulation Tactics You Need to Watch Out For! | Terri Cole

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture

4.8 • 700 Ratings

🗓️ 17 May 2023

⏱️ 99 minutes

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There is something both sobering and chilling about being manipulated, especially by someone close to you. The feeling of betrayal and pain can leave you untrusting of everyone after that, and the emotional aftermath can lead to years of therapy or unhealthy behaviors. If you’re a ‘Yes’ to any of these, this episode is a must for you: Have fallen for people’s fake concern at the expense of invalidating yourself Felt suffocated by the weight of someone’s constant complaining Started questioning your version of reality because you were being gaslit The Boundary Boss and one of our favorite homies on Women of Impact, Terri Cole, is back for another round and this time she’s unpacking everything you need to never be tricked by manipulative people again! They want to get their way no matter what at your expense, and it’s your job to recognize it and put an end to it with the right boundaries in place. Terri Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who helps women like you break the cycle of living without boundaries. It doesn’t matter who you are or what your past is, everyone deserves and needs boundaries to create and maintain healthy relationships. If you’re walking on eggshells at home, it’s time to sit up straight and pay attention. Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688 Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ Sponsors: Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts To get 15% off your next unique gift, go to https://bit.ly/UncommonGoodsWOI. LinkedIn Jobs helps you find the qualified candidates you want to talk to, faster. Post your job for free at https://bit.ly/LinkedinWOI. Go to https://bit.ly/QuinceWOI for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be! Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more! Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist. Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab. Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub. And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:23.8	What up guys?
0:24.4	All right, today, my girl, Terry Cole.
0:27.1	She is the boundary boss, licensed therapist and the best-selling author on a mission to help women break the cycle once and for all by setting boundaries that empower and create healthy relationships.
0:40.1	Now today, guys, we go deep and discuss the three manipulation tactics that are being used
0:44.8	against you and how to break away from them. We also talk about how to stop finally projecting
0:50.7	your good intentions and kindness onto people and actually pay attention to
0:54.8	their actions and not their words. And we also talk about becoming a red flag conductor, if you
1:01.2	will. If your current situation has you walking on eggshells, then Terry wants you to do
1:05.7	this immediately. If this episode brings you value and you enjoyed listening to it, please do go and
1:12.1	follow and share this episode. Let your homies know it exists. Honestly, guys, I cannot create
1:17.3	global impact without you. And so if you want to be part of this movement where we can impact
1:22.2	women together, please, please share this episode, leave a review. Okay, and now, without further ado, let's dive in with my girl, Terry Cole, the boundary boss.
1:33.5	When they can make you doubt yourself, doubt your reality, you are so much more malleable and controllable within the relationship.
1:48.0	So this is why it's a clever manipulation technique.
1:59.0	People would dismiss us, people would disrespect us, and it's said and done in ways that maybe we don't actually realize we're being manipulated. And you talk about the most common manipulation tactics that other people can use on us.
2:05.0	And so today I want to dive deep on what the things that people say and then how do we respond when they're said to us.
2:11.4	So the one that I want to start with that you say is faux concern.
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