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You know, there's a moment that's often ordinary when something doesn't go the way that you hoped.

Maybe someone walks away. Maybe the door closes, like right in your face,

or maybe you give your whole heart to something and it just didn't land.

And then that stillness of thought comes to mind.

Maybe it's not them. Maybe it's me.

That's how it starts, right? That single thought that somehow convinces us that our worth has changed.

And today we're talking about those unraveling moments when rejection or failure makes us question what's always been true and how to

gently return to what hasn't left us even when it feels like everything else has.

I'm Chad Lawson and let's comment down in three two one so first I want to talk about when

value feels conditional because we're taught early on that performance equals value

good grades gold stars applause when we don't them, we assume that something must be wrong with

us. So then we start to bargain. You know, if I succeed, then I matter. Or if they choose me,

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