The Work of Byron Katie | Just Melissa

Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

Melissa Urban

Health & Fitness

4.7 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 31 December 2019

⏱️ 39 minutes

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In this Just Melissa episode, I walk you through a session of The Work (Byron Katie’s approach to questioning stressful thoughts) done with my own therapist after I sustained a concussion in December 2018. My accident left my physically incapable of doing everything that made me “me”—going to the gym, hiking, reading, working, socializing—and brought on a bout of depression and a crisis of self-worth and value. Through this intimate retelling, I’ll show you how I used The Work to question my stressful thoughts around the accident; see exactly where my pain and confusion were coming from; and change my mindset from fear, frustration, and helplessness to acceptance, compassion, and confidence. Continue the conversation with me @melissau on Instagram. If you have a question for Dear Melissa or a topic idea for the show, leave me a voicemail at (321) 209-1480. Do the Thing is part of ‘The Onward Project,’ a family of podcasts brought together by Gretchen Rubin—all about how to make your life better. Check out the other Onward Project podcasts—Happier with Gretchen Rubin, Side Hustle School, and Happier in Hollywood. If you liked this episode, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and tell your friends to Do the Thing!Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do the Thing, a
0:07.7	podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.
0:14.0	Today I'm going to talk about one of the most life-changing experiences I have ever had,
0:26.0	learning and practicing the work of Byron Katie.
0:30.0	I've talked about the work for years on social media and in this podcast.
0:35.0	It's a simple for question framework that allows you to question stressful thoughts,
0:40.0	accept what is, and restore your power.
0:44.0	For those of you who have read her book,
0:46.0	Loving What Is, or looked at the work on her website,
0:49.0	it might sound too good to be true.
0:51.0	How can you shift your entire experience with just four questions?
0:56.6	Today I'm sharing one of my own facilitated sessions of the work to show you the power it has with a real world scenario.
1:05.0	I hope by exploring these just Melissa topics,
1:08.0	you'll have your own light bulb moment
1:10.0	and successfully do the thing.
1:13.2	There's a story of a man whose roof leaked.
1:17.3	When it rained, he couldn't fix the roof.
1:20.8	When it wasn't raining, he claimed he didn't need to fix the roof. I think of this story often when I'm doing work on my own self-worth and identity, whether it's through therapy or my Byron Katie practices.
1:35.0	It's easy to say that my self-worth isn't wrapped up in things like my
1:38.8	athleticism, my business success, or my relationship, when I have all of those things.
1:45.0	When my gym sessions are rocking, when Whole30 gets a feature in People magazine,
1:50.0	when I'm blissfully happy with my boyfriend it's sunny outside. Of course there's
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