What is the default posture of a wife? What's the default posture of a husband? I would argue,

and I think you can make this argument through scripture, is the default posture of a husband is initiative, is responsibility, whereas the default posture of a wife is responding, receiving, helping, but reacting in that you're responding to something that I'm initiating.

You're responding to your husband, whether you're using words or that I'm initiating. You're responding to your

husband, whether you're using words or not. We're talking about how we communicate to one another.

And whether I use words or not, I'm communicating something. There's really no neutral ground of

communication. It's just kind of whether are you aware of how you're communicating or what

you're communicating? Is like, are you receiving what I'm communicating and are we doing it rightly?

Is there clear lines of communication? Otherwise it just becomes very problematic.

Brian, you tend to be the gas pedal in the marriage. And I'm always the one that's like a bit of the break.

Got a need for speed.

But also I've learned to be okay with some of the speed.

But I feel like I'm the one that is more hesitant to say yes to things and to you.

Not hesitant, but just I'm trying to count the cost on all of my yeses. And I try to count all the costs of all the yeses. But how can a white, like, I don't know if that's just the nature of being a wife or being your wife. I think, I think it varies for sure. But I don't think you're always the break and I'm always the gas. I think there's certainly things where... In the right ways, I think you're the gas. Yeah. Well, for instance, if I mention the idea of getting a puppy, which I would never mention... It's on record. It's here. This is a... Don't delete. Don't delete. This is out in the ether. I'm talking strictly theoretical terms.

If one would be so bold so as to suggest a puppy. You mentioned puppy earlier this morning too.

Because there's a gentleman in our church.

He, I couldn't remember his name.

And the nearest descriptor I had was he has the dog because he lets his dog sit in the pew next to him. Sweetest dog. Well, she had puppies. And so anyway, don't put that on me. I'm listening. Just an observation. See, there's the gas right there. Observation. She's like, well, Arsler, do you want a puppy now? I can start looking. Just because the dots are there doesn't mean we connect them, Ryan. If I said that, within a day, I would have three or more text messages from you. I want to, I want you to be happy. Links to. I just want to please you as a wife. Is this such a great?

So back to the point, the idea of yes versus no, gas versus the break.

I think it varies.

But yeah, I think in our dynamic, and I think, frankly, if I'm going to be honest, I think the husband should be the initiator.

That's the

primary role of a husband, leader, authority, responsible party, is to initiate on the important

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