The Viral Hijabi Pole Dancer (w/ Neda Momeni)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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🗓️ 3 October 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Nurse practitioner and pole dancer Neda Momeni is here and teaches Nicole a lot! From her years as a labor and delivery nurse, she explains what actually happens in the hospital during childbirth and what most people never hear about until they’re living it. She talks about Muslim dating, from family expectations to apps like Minder and her experience using an online matchmaker. Pressure pushed her to marry the wrong man, and she ended up going no-contact with her parents. After cutting ties, pole dancing became her outlet, and a video of her performing in a hijab went viral - sparking both backlash and an outpouring of support from women who she inspired. Plus: a hot tip why you should watch some True Crime.

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0:00.0	Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description.
0:07.0	This is a headgum podcast. Today's segment is brought to you by Bumble, the go-to dating up for finding love. You know how everyone says they have a type, but if you listen to the show, you know, like half the time people don't end up with the type they
0:21.1	thought that they wanted. I know. I have. Some of my best dates have been with people. I didn't
0:26.7	think that were going to be my type. And that's the thing about love. It doesn't follow a checklist.
0:33.5	That's what's so great about Bumble with features like shared interests and profile prompts.
0:38.4	You actually get to see someone's personality before you meet.
0:42.5	It's not just a headshot and a bio.
0:45.0	You get an actual sense of someone's vibe.
0:47.3	It opens the door for connections that you might not have expected.
0:51.1	That feels really right.
0:52.9	So what are you waiting for?
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0:59.3	You know, this is, this is not Halal at all.
1:02.2	What I'm about to say, I am not saying any of this is right.
1:04.6	But like, you know, and then, you know, the wind is slightly blowing my hijab off.
1:10.3	And.
1:14.4	Yeah. You know, the wind is slightly blowing my hijab off. Oh, no.
1:17.4	Oh, my goodness.
1:18.7	And I didn't try to fight that wind.
1:23.7	I'm just like, it's this wind is in God's hands now.
1:26.1	I don't.
1:29.5	Why won't you date me?
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