The Undeniable Submitted Marriage | ReWire 1880
The Hardcore Closer Podcast
Ryan Stewman
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 12 February 2026
⏱️ 4 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
I've been married 4 times, and divorced 3.
Each time, I never thought I would find love again.
The kind of love that is easy, peaceful, and supportive.
As I was entering into my relationship with Amy, I had already created an 8-page document detailing exactly who she is.
I know it sounds crazy, and a bit woo-woo, but I got tired of being in failed relationships.
Most of them were because I was involved.
All jokes aside, when Amy and I got married, we agreed to enter into a submitted marriage.
No, it's not being a cuck.......it's more about finding the right flow and lanes we can each exist in.
What is a submitted marriage?
It's where two people decide where they are going to solve any disagreements by going to the default of finding resolution.
In my marriage, if we have any disagreements around kids, Amy always has the last word.
At work, I'm the bread winner, but she has to default to what I want as it pertains to work.
It's that simple.
Find your lanes. Establish them.
Take the arguments out of making your way through disagreements that blow up most marriages.
About the ReWire Podcast
The ReWire Podcast with Ryan Stewman – Dive into powerful insights as Ryan Stewman, the HardCore Closer, breaks down mental barriers and shares actionable steps to rewire your thoughts. Each episode is a fast-paced journey designed to reshape your mindset, align your actions, and guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself. Join in for a daily dose of real talk that empowers you to embrace change and unlock your full potential.
Learn how you can become a member of a powerful community consistently rewiring itself for success at https://www.jointheapex.com/
Rise Above
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the rewire podcast. |
| 0:02.0 | I'm your host, Ryan Stumann, |
| 0:03.7 | and I'm here to rewire your mind for success. |
| 0:07.3 | You were put on this planet for success. |
| 0:09.8 | You were created to succeed, |
| 0:11.7 | but the force of average is after you every single day, |
| 0:14.8 | my brothers and sisters, |
| 0:16.0 | and this podcast is the one thing that's designed |
| 0:18.9 | to help you fight the force of average and excel in every |
| 0:22.1 | area of your life. We're glad that you're here. |
| 0:25.4 | I've been divorced three goddamn times, y'all. Three motherfucking times I've been divorced. |
| 0:31.5 | If there was an area of expertise that I could guide the public in, if you guys ever want |
| 0:36.5 | helping something, you're going through a divorce motherfuckers. I know how to navigate them if you guys ever want helping something. You're going through |
| 0:37.6 | divorce motherfuckers. I know how to navigate them. I've had my fair share. And I've had divorce |
| 0:43.7 | two out of three, three out of three where I had money. So the advice I'm about to give you is priceless |
| 0:50.8 | because now I've been with the same woman for 10 years. We've been married for seven. |
| 0:54.8 | We get happier every single day. And look, I hate saying that shit on the internet because it's almost like a curse. As soon as you talk about how great your marriage is, you're fucking having to get a divorce in the public eye. And I don't want that. So I'm not going to tell you how amazing our marriage is, but I'm going to tell you some things that make our marriage work. |
| 1:12.9 | You see, we have what's called a sabbatism. I'm not going to tell you how amazing our marriage is, but I'm going to tell you some things that make our marriage work. |
| 1:12.4 | You see, we have what's called a submitted marriage. |
| 1:16.1 | And a submitted marriage means that in situations, we must submit to each other. |
| 1:21.6 | Right. |
| 1:21.9 | So we have an understanding at what point who is the boss in the situation? |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Ryan Stewman, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Ryan Stewman and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.