I'm Matthew Hussey and this is Love Life. If you've ever felt like you didn't know the

right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry, then you can't afford to

miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode. Stay tuned, because I'm going to

hand you five phrases that are so simple yet so powerful with men that you're going

to be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago.

I wanted to do something a little different today in talking about a book. A book that

many of you, if you're listening to this in the United States, will have read very young.

I didn't, it wasn't on my school texts, but I did read it later in life and that's

capture in the right. I was reading this book recently on holiday and like many people

I think during the first half of the book, I found myself wondering if there was anything

to like about the character Holden. If you haven't read the book, it's about Holden

Coolfield, a young schoolboy who is growing or is becoming an adult, is in the cusp of

adulthood and is very angsty and finds himself often depressed by life and by people in life

and often disappointed in people and their behavior and he's often inside his own head, giving

himself all these reasons that he doesn't like anything. I wanted to talk about this book

today because I think it teaches us actually a very valuable lesson that I'm often mentioning

in my coaching. For those of you that have read it, I think you'll get a kick out of this

and for those of you that haven't, I would suggest that you do read it because even though

this feels sometimes like it's about an angsty teenager, by the end of the book actually

you find that there is an incredible amount to relate to in this person and sometimes part

of the reason we don't like a character is that they reflect too much of ourselves. Now, spoiler

alert, if you haven't read the book and you want to know nothing about it, come back to this once

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