Success requires autonomy, happiness requires connection, they're not even close.

What you actually get when you get more successful is often a smaller circle of people who

actually support you and a larger amount of people who feel threatened by you and dislike you.

If you don't make peace with this now, you are never going to enjoy winning.

What's up guys? Welcome back to Build, and today I want to talk about the truth about haters. I want to talk about haters today. You have haters,

I have haters. The question is not whether you're going to deal with hate and whether you're

going to deal with people who hate you, it's whether you're going to let it destroy you. I think a lot of people handle haters wrong. And this is one thing that I do think I've gotten semi-right, at least I think that it does not affect my quality of life. I think a lot of the times we see people either ignore the problem or they make it worse. And so I want to share with you guys just four mental frameworks that have changed how I think about

hate and I hope will change how you think about hate. This really became top of mind for me because

I have a friend and plus her heart, she just started getting a pretty big social media following.

And she came to me the other day and she was like, oh my God, like, look at this video.

And there was a video that somebody was spreading online where they had completely altered.

I mean, they'd used AI clearly what she was doing, what she said, and it made her look like she was making like a very inappropriate video.

I'll just put it that way.

And she was flabbergasted. She's like, this is completely

contrary to my brand. I'm getting all these crazy messages. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to

say. Like what do I do in this instance? And, you know, she put out, she ended up before she told me

that she's like, I put out a message just saying like, this is not what this means, this is what this person did, all these things. And like, still, even upon putting that out, a lot of people didn't leave her, right? They still were hating on her. She was still getting messages. And here's the thing. She put out that message one time on her social media channel, but that video keeps getting circulated. So even if she responded to it, people keep seeing it. So unless you're saying it every day,

all day on your social media, which would be incredibly distracting and probably a bad association,

people are still going to see the video and not know your response. And so she was like,

Leo, I don't know what to do. I feel like crap. I am just upset about stuff and I'm not really sure how to

handle this. And so I was talking to her through this because, you know, one thing she said when

we were talking is she was like, you know, I think one thing that I thought is that as I got more

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