I was a man for a number of years who was ruled by his excuses. You know, I had excuses for

everything. I had excuses about why I couldn't go out. I had excuses about why I was so damn poor

and broke and in debt. I had excuses about why my body didn't look the way that I wanted to,

why I ate like crap, why I didn't

feel good most of the time. I had excuses about my behavior and my relationship, excuses for porn

watching, excessively, excuses for my cheating, excuses for why my career didn't look the way that I

wanted. Like, I really had a number of excuses in my life that were running the show. And I remember

working with a mentor. This is probably like 10, 12 years ago. And we were having a conversation. I was

bringing this up because, well, I was bringing it up because he called me on it. We were working

together. And I hadn't done an assignment that he had given me. And he said, you know, you seem to have a lot of excuses. And I said, I know I want to get past that. How do I get past that? Like, what do I do about my excuses? How do I overcome my excuses? And he said, you know, Connor, it's not that your excuses are getting in the way. They're not the problem. The problem is that you're afraid

to face your fears. You don't know how to face your fears. And I remember going home that night and

sitting down, I had this little desk in this terrible basement suite that I was living in. It's all I

could afford. It was like 300 bucks a month. And even that was a stretch. I could barely put food on the table at that time.

And I remember going home and taking out a pen and paper and writing down your excuses

aren't getting in the way.

It's that you don't know how to face your fears.

Excuses are just the symptom and fears are the virus.

And that stuck with me for a long time. I actually put a little note on my computer and I had it on there and it said that phrase and it said,

do whatever it takes, confront your fears.

And since then, in many ways, that's what I've been doing. That's what I've been trying to do, public speaking, getting my finances together, getting my health and order, getting my shit together in my relationship, not being unfaithful, being true, being honest, being direct about what I want in my life, confronting the fears of asking for what

I want, confronting the fears of building a business and making money and having people judge me

for all of those things. I mean, it's, I have really gone above and beyond to try and face as many

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