Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Yes, I understand the title should be My Truth About Parenting, not The Truth About Parenting,

but I'm willing to bet based on what I've observed and 50 years on this planet, you know, including

my own parents and then my clients and of course my own experience as a parent these days. And with that all

the friends are around me who are also parents new parents just a few years

their experiences right so it's a collective it's information and

insights based on, yes, my perspective, but also the collective of my story

and of course my life and who's around me.

Okay, this is where I want to start.

So I grew up in the 80s.

That doesn't matter actually, I don't know why I said that but our next door neighbors

They were kind of the I guess on the outside kind of like the the leave it to beaver

You know middle class America, right? And they had seven kids.

They had kids young, mom was young.

I mean, I think she was in her 30s and they already had seven kids. Dad was a truck driver slash alcoholic, always worked and you know, came home around, I don't know, six or seven PM,

beat Red from alcohol, you know, and he would like just watch TV zoned out and I remember he would eat a raw onion like an apple and for some reason I was like

especially as a kid it's like what is that guy eating and mom was theat-home mom and there were like three sons and four daughters.

And for, you know, a 10-year-old Korean kid, this was a dream because their house was like

Disneyland. You know, I got to play with all these friends and toys and, you know it they pretty much raised me because my parents

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