There's a sociologist who did a study, and he would ask young men, what does it mean to be a good man?

And they had no trouble answering that. Integrity, honesty, sacrifice, be a protector, be a provider, be generous, and so on. And then when he'd say,

but what does it mean to be a real man, then they would say, no, no, no, no, a real man,

that's completely different.

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I'm Dave Wilson.

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So I've spent 33 seasons in an NFL locker room.

I've never mentioned that on Family Life before, have I?

I don't think you have.

But as the Detroit Lions chaplain, I was around a lot of men, young men.

And then I coached high school football for 13, I think, season. So I'm around a lot of high

school men. And you've coached a lot of teams over the years of guys. We had three boys. So you coached

a lot of their teams as well. And then pastor in, you know, a church with thousands of men,

one of the questions I would often ask, either a high school boy or an NFL player or just a guy in our church, tell me what a

real man is, tell me what a godly man is, what is a man? I am not kidding. I don't think I ever got a

clear answer. It was confusion. It was, well, maybe it's, there was never really any clarity.

It was just, well, maybe it's...

And then I look at especially high school boys and say,

when do you become a man?

I had no idea.

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