If you are sick and tired of dating advice, because it feels like all dating advice is

essentially geared towards people who are actually getting on real dates, and you're stuck

in a dating world where the other side isn't trying at all.

Not only are they not serious about having a relationship,

they're not even serious about meeting in person.

Then this video and what I'm about to say next is for you.

One of my Love Life members, this is a coaching group I work with year round,

asked me a question this week.

She said, I have been trying. I have been on dating apps. I even went to a speed dating event recently. I meet people

and then nothing happens. I am trying. I want to go on dates, but I am starting to lose hope and motivation because people are not even putting in the littlest effort for it to go somewhere. And what do I do when I am trying and nothing is happening on the other side. This is a big question.

If you relate to this question, leave me a comment below.

I want to hear from you.

But let me give you the answer that I gave her.

And I didn't want to give her the answer

that people typically give in a situation like this,

which is some version of it's not you, it's everybody else.

Don't worry about it. Don't take it as a reflection of you. I think that that is a kind of

trite answer that people find incredibly unhelpful. It might feel immediately reassuring in some way,

but it doesn't leave me any better off at the end of it because I'm still stuck in a world

where it feels

like nothing is happening. So I gave what I believe to be the real answer to this question,

which is this. What's up guys? I wanted to tell you about a partnership that I have just started

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