The Shift, Freedom vs. Stability & My Secret Half Marathon
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 23 February 2026
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
This week on Co-Hosts for Life, we’re catching up on work offsites, falling off our 20-week challenge, and the half marathon I secretly signed up for that got canceled, so I ran it alone anyway. I share why I needed that race for myself and how it ended up being one of my strongest runs ever. Then we answer your questions about supporting a friend through a breakup, losing the “obsessed” feeling in long-term relationships, and what it really means when someone slowly pulls back while dating. We also talk about freedom versus stability, catching feelings for a friend’s ex, and how to know if it is worth exploring. As always, Jake gives his honest perspective and reminds you to send this episode to a friend.
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| 0:00.0 | All right, ready to go? |
| 0:01.2 | Ready. |
| 0:02.0 | All right. |
| 0:02.5 | Hello, welcome back to another episode of co-host for life. |
| 0:05.1 | I'm Alana. |
| 0:05.6 | I'm Jake. |
| 0:06.5 | Jake, can you fix now the mic flag looks silly? |
| 0:09.0 | I know because I push it down. You said that made it work. Oh. Well, that has nothing to do with it. It's just the cord. What about now? Yeah, yeah, you're good. Okay. Yeah, we're good. We are joined by a live studio audience. |
| 0:21.5 | Got two dogs in the house right now. |
| 0:23.6 | We do. We are dog by a live studio audience. Got two dogs in the house right now. We do. We are dog sitting one of Barclay's best friends, Alfie. He's coming on a screen right now. He's a big, lovable, cuddly golden. Look. Look. And we have no idea how this is going to go. I think he wants to come up here. There's not enough space for you. There most certainly is not Alfie. Please sit. All right. We are excited to catch up with you guys. We haven't done a bunch of questions lately. Like Q&A. I feel like we've had so much going on between traveling between the engagement and other things just happening in our lives that we haven't done |
| 0:55.3 | like a true Q&A. And you guys have been sending in a lot of questions. So apologies for the |
| 1:00.1 | delay, but we are going to answer them today. Okay, so I finally picked up Dawn of Chaos and Fury |
| 1:07.7 | by Melissa K. Rouric. And I need to talk about it because this series |
| 1:11.4 | completely pulled me out of my reading slump. It's one of those worlds that makes you fall back |
| 1:16.9 | in love with reading. This is the fourth and final book in the legacy series, and what I love |
| 1:21.6 | about it is that it is the perfect gateway romanticcy if you're not usually a big fantasy reader. |
| 1:26.7 | The world feels like ours, smartphones, |
| 1:28.6 | cars, the whole thing, but it's filled with wild magic. We're talking Thay, dragons, vampires, |
| 1:33.9 | witches, actual descendants of gods, but in a setting that feels familiar and super easy to slip |
| 1:39.0 | into. And the emotions don't get me started. The heroin is navigating depression and anxiety |
| 1:43.6 | and the way that it's woven |
| 1:44.8 | into the story make the stakes so human and grounded. Plus, if you're a trope person, the series |
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