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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Sex Expert (Esther Perel): The Relationship Crisis No One Talks About That's Killing Your Sex Life!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.613.2K Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2025

⏱️ 89 minutes

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Summary

Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy. Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs’.  She explains:  Why MEN Over 30 Aren’t Having Sex Anymore. The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship. How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage. Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life. The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce.  00:00 Intro 02:29 Esther’s Main Concern About Human Connection 03:22 What’s the Consequence of Losing Social Skills? 04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays? 07:13 The Value of Rejection 07:52 Rejection from the Apps 08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don’t Work for You 11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder? 13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout 14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society 15:57 Loneliness Today 17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays? 20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships 21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction 28:07 Questions from Steven’s Friends 28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity? 31:17 Attraction with a Partner 33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible? 37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability 39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships 42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long 44:52 Ads 45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before? 48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship? 49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far? 51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women? 59:08 What Is Social Confidence? 1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning? 1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection? 1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace? 1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots? Follow Esther:  Instagram - https://bit.ly/4l2Et6S  Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD  Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca  Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv  You can purchase Esther’s new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work’, here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h  You can purchase Esther’s book ‘The State of Affairs’, here:  https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv  The Diary Of A CEO: Join DOAC circle here -https://doaccircle.com/ Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Get email updates: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt⁠⁠  Follow Steven: ⁠⁠https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb⁠⁠  Sponsors: Stan Store - Visit https://link.stan.store/joinstanchallenge to join the challenge! Ekster - http://partner.ekster.com/DOAC with code STEVEN Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY #EstherPerel #DatingCrisis #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

So I messaged my closest friends.

0:01.9

Can you tell me what question you have that you wouldn't ever say out loud?

0:06.5

Give me a few.

0:07.3

How can I be satisfied with just one sexual partner?

0:10.0

I have my partner.

0:11.9

Should I tell them?

0:13.1

I no longer find my partner attractive, but I don't know how to tell her.

0:17.4

We have a lot to talk about it.

0:18.6

You're going to record me to him?

0:20.0

Okay.

0:20.6

All right.

0:21.6

Here's what I would suggest.

0:23.7

Esther Perel is regarded as one of the most sought-after relationship therapists in the world.

0:27.7

For the past 40 years, she's been helping millions of people with her brutally honest and wildly

0:31.8

relatable insights.

0:33.5

People are having less sex.

0:34.8

Why?

0:35.1

Is the sex getting less interesting?

0:36.7

No.

0:37.3

Their life with each other is less interesting.

0:39.8

And what concerns me at this moment is the loss of social skills, but they are vital to us.

0:45.5

And we have less and less opportunities to practice because we are pursuing connection beyond the human world.

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