A heads up, this episode includes discussions of sex.

My name is Liliki Doss. I'm a producer and journalist at NPR, and this is LifeKit.

During the pandemic, I spent a lot more time hold up inside my house.

I was really bored, so I did it. I downloaded TikTok. I didn't know what I'd find,

but I didn't want to end up being another millennial fumbling my way through Megan D. Stallion's

Savage Remix or Benny's Super Lonely Dance. My 4U page landed me on Alt TikTok,

where I found a fun LGBTQ plus community, something that I really missed from not being able to see

friends or go to gate bars. I'm not sure what the algorithm was getting at when one day it started

showing me TikToks of queer people giving tips on how to have sex with someone with a vulva,

but there I was wondering, where was this information when I needed it?

It's possible you took sex ed years ago, so you may not remember it well, but even if you do,

did you come out feeling like you learned much? I went to school in Texas where the approach

to this day requires educators to emphasize abstinence and tone marriage, and that's even

if the school chooses to teach about sex. Growing up, sex was talked about as something that

exclusively happened between a cis man and a cis woman. It was all very heteronormative.

Now, fast forward a bit, I'm thinking about having sex for the first time with someone who has a vulva.

I'm excited, but I'm also a nervous wreck because I have no clue what to do.

So, in an effort to save you from that panic, I present this crash course on how to have better

and safer sex, regardless of who you're into.

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