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My name is Lily Kuros. I'm a producer and journalist at NPR, and this is Life Kit.

During the pandemic, I spent a lot more time hold up inside my house.

I was really bored, so I did it. I downloaded TikTok.

I didn't know what I'd find, but I didn't want to end up being another millennial

fumbling my way through Megan V. Stallion's Savage Remix or Benny's Super Lonely Dance. My 4U

page landed me on Alt TikTok, where I found a fun LGBTQ plus community, something that I really

missed from not being able to see friends or go to gay bars.

I'm not sure what the algorithm was getting at when one day it started showing me TikToks of queer people giving tips on how to have sex with someone with a vulva.

But there I was wondering, where was this information when I needed it?

It's possible you took sex ed years ago, so you may not remember it well, but even if you

do, did you come out feeling like you learned much?

I went to school in Texas where the approach, to this day, requires educators to emphasize

abstinence until marriage, and that's even if the school chooses to teach about sex.

Growing up, sex was talked about as something that exclusively happened between a cis man and a cis woman. It was all very

heteronormative. Now, fast forward a bit, I'm thinking about having sex for the first time

with someone who has a vulva. I'm excited, but I'm also a nervous wreck

because I have no clue what to do. So, in an effort to save you from that panic, I present this

crash course on how to have better and safer sex, regardless of who you're into.

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