where this woman by the name of Jesse Borrelli was studies parental over control and this is actually

parents being excessively controlling their children has actually been studies since the 1930s

and what Borrelli did a few years ago was she put to have these these kind of tweeners, I think 12-13

your kids, in front of a computer game and their mother was in the room and the computer is kind of

computer puzzle and it was harder than it looked at the point where it was getting pretty frustrating

for kids to do and the only instruction to the mother was don't help. In every single mom in the

study understandably because watching your kids suffer we're wired to help, we're wired to protect

our kids, we're wired to sue them, the mothers couldn't help, they couldn't refrain from helping

and what happened is they're both wearing a heart monitor so when the mother helps her heart rate

goes way down because she she has a sense of control now I'm doing something and I'm not sitting

on my hands and zipping my lip and the kids' kids' heart rate goes up as mothers start to get involved

the kids' mushrooms. Hi this is Dene, I'm the founder of Simple Families. Simple Families is an

online community for parents who are seeking a simpler more intentional life. In this show we focus

on minimalism with kids, positive parenting, family wellness and decreasing the mental load.

My perspectives are based in my first hand experience raising kids but also rooted in my PhD

in child development. So you're going to hear conversations that are based in research but more

importantly real life. Thanks for joining us. Hi there thanks so much for tuning in. Today I have

an interview with Dr. Bill Stixroot. I first remember hearing Dr. Stixroot's name almost 20 years

ago when I was working in my master's degree and doing some research. Dr. Stixroot is a best-selling

author in conjunction with his co-author Ned Johnson. He's also a neuropsychologist with decades of

experience. He lectures widely on the developing brain, a meditation, the effects of stress and

sleep deprivation, technology overload. And I especially love his book The Self-Driven Child,

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