Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

So a close friend of mine is going through a separation right now.

After many years together, nearly two decades, together with her partner. It's painful, there's grieving, it feels like a big loss and the relationship ending isn't something that she wanted. So I've been

speaking to her in recent weeks checking in with her seeing how she's doing it changes day to day

I know like having been divorced in my 20s I know that when relationships end it feels like a death

because there actually is a death right when a relationship

ends there is the death of that dream together that lifestyle together how you spend every

single evening of your life who you eat breakfast with, who you vacation with. I mean, there is an ending,

there is a finality to that. It is dramatic how our lives shift when relationships end. I think most of us probably know this if we've

experienced it. But I've noticed that there's one thing that she's doing and I had

you know just a few questions about it.

Because her partner has moved on, right?

The relationship ended, there's a third party in the mix.

This friend of mine is looking at photos. She's looking for a lot of information online. She is is the word sluathing? Is that that the right word she's looking around online

looking for whatever she can find about this woman whatever she can dig up she's looking to piece together as much information as she can.

Perhaps for her healing, perhaps to come to a centered place, perhaps just to maybe figure out

more stuff if she's got questions, if there are questions that haven't been

answered. And I asked you, you know, how does it feel when you search for this information?

And she said that in the moment it can feel soothing or gratifying maybe it's even helpful for her anxiety because she's

busy somehow. But then I also asked you know is this actually soothing you is it really sometimes

being busy the momentum of the momentum of something can make us feel like okay at

least I'm engaged in something and I'm being responsible,

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