Because here's the truth. Confident people don't fail less. They fail differently. When you lack

confidence, failure feels like confirmation. Hey, hey, welcome back to the show. Today, we're diving into

confidence. This is not just any pep talk, but the actual science behind training your brain to believe in you. Let's talk about confidence. I love talking about it. I basically wrote a whole book about it in Standing Strong. And one of the key points in Standing Strong was how I used to think that confidence was something you either had or you didn't have.

Like some people were just born with this magical ability to walk into any room and absolutely own it.

But here's the truth. Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's something that you build.

And neuroscience shows us that you can literally rewire your brain to become more

confident. Let's talk about the confidence myth first. Before we dove into the science, let's bust the

biggest myth about confidence. And that's that it comes from being perfect or knowing everything.

I remember being asked to speak at a major conference,

kind of my first big one, and immediately my brain went into overdrive. Like, who are you to speak to

these people? It was a, it's a conference that's not still going. It's the Catalyst Leadership Conference,

so a lot of pastors and leaders. This was, I think, 2013, and I was doing a breakout, and I remember

thinking, this is terrifying. I should be listening to all of them. And what if someone asks a

question that I can't answer? And my mind would spin on this. I think that that is familiar to everyone, whether it is

speaking at an event or having to do a presentation or meeting new people, just everything can

trigger this. This is what psychologists call the imposter phenomenon or the imposter syndrome.

We've talked about it before. It's that nagging feeling that you're a

fraud. And it's just a matter of time before everyone finds it out. Now, I do want to rabbit trail about

imposter syndrome. I talk to my clients so often about this because they will say, well, I'm

feeling imposter syndrome. Is that a sign I don't know what I'm doing? And my answer is imposter syndrome is great. If you have

imposter syndrome, it means that you're actually doing something new. You're learning something. You're

trying. You're expanding your territory. Whenever you feel imposter syndrome, be glad. It means you're

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