Hi, Jimmy Evans. This is my wife Karen. Welcome to the marriage day podcast. We exist to help couples to thrive in marriage. And today Karen, we're actually talking about people who are preparing for marriage. And we're talking about the right one, the book that I wrote along with Frank Martin.

Excellent book, excellent. It is a good book and we gave this book to a friend of ours and they actually bought a copy for their son and their daughter and they were both dating.

It was a funny story because they gave the book to their daughter and she read it and broke up with her boyfriend. And she said, I absolutely know after reading this book, he's not the right one.

Their son read the book and he said, I'm going to marry the girl that I'm dating. I know she's the right one.

And they did get married and they said, baby. And so it helps you to know, you know, when you're when you're dating, you need help. You know, many times when we're dating.

I wish we'd had help. Yeah, is that well, we didn't know anything. We were in high school. But the conversations that you need to have, the things that you need to look out for, the red flags, those kinds of things.

No one knows these things or very few people know these things automatically and a lot of times our parents don't know what to say to us.

But we're going to go into a teaching here in just a minute, call the right one that I taught. But before that, we have a couple of questions from some of the viewers.

And this is for you, Karen, I've made relationship mistakes in the past that have been so painful, including being sexual too soon.

I feel like damaged goods. How do I not make the same mistakes again?

That's a good question. And first of all, she is not damaged goods with God. You know, and he can forgive anything.

And so, you know, just take it to the Lord and just confess that, you know, I messed up and asked for healing and forgiveness and God can redeem it.

And, you know, if she's that concerned about not making them, you know, meeting the right person, it sounds like she's doing better than she was.

And that like you said, reading this book and helping a lot, you know, and so I would just suggest do that and get the information inside of you.

Because if you're going to a relationship without knowing what to do, then you're set up for failure because everything's based on emotion.

That's exactly right. Well, and I do really do encourage everybody that's dating or you have a child dating or a friend dating or something like that to read the book the right one because it does help to give you the tools that you need.

I was on an airplane in the service came up to me and she said, well, I read your book on marriage. And she said, I had a horrible divorce seven years ago. She said it was very, very painful.

And I told, she said, I told the Lord, I'm not going to make that mistake again. And the next husband that I have, you're going to bring to me.

And she said, all my friends wanted me to go to happy hour with them. And they kept saying to me, you're never going to meet a man unless you go to happy hour.

And she said, I'm not going to happy hour. The Lord is going to bring me an ex husband. And she said, I was opening my garage door one day. And I live in an apartment building with the apartments behind us.

And when I opened my garage door, there was a man across the alley. And he raised his garage door. And we looked at each other and we fell in love. We got married. And she said, he's the best man I've ever met.

Well, that's a, that's just an example of not making emotional decisions and not making fear based decisions. Her friends were saying to her, you'll never, you'll never meet a man unless you go to happy hour. And so, good.

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