The red flags you see now are the reasons you'll leave later

Date Yourself Instead

Lyss Boss

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 2.3K Ratings

🗓️ 3 July 2023

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Self explanatory. If you see some major issues early on, my best advice is to get out while you still can. The red flags you see in the beginning are the reasons you'll most likely leave the relationship later - or they'll be the reason you're unhappy in a relationship. Yes, people can grow and change, however, I've noticed that my gut was always telling me to run prior to diving deeper into a situation with someone...yet I just ignored it. Let's talk about it.

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0:00.0	The red flags you see in the beginning are the reason you will leave the relationship later.
0:06.4	Trust me on this one. Every single time I've ever dated someone briefly and they were showing me
0:12.2	their true colors or showing me red flags and my intuition was screaming at me early on in the
0:17.2	relationship, yet I continue to ignore it and justify it and say, oh, it's not that bad. They're
0:22.5	not that bad of a person. They'll change blah, blah, blah, x, y, and z. It's fine. I would always
0:29.5	end up regretting not trusting my gut and I would always end up regretting it later on because
0:35.3	they were showing me who they were the entire fucking time. From day one right off the bat, yet
0:41.3	I would dismiss it because I thought they were attractive or I liked them or there was some
0:45.9	sort of connection there. So I would justify everything, dismiss it, say, you know what? It's not
0:51.3	really a big deal and I'd continue the relationship even though I knew from the get go, it probably
0:56.7	was never going to go anywhere serious. Sometimes it's really tricky because red flags can be super
1:02.1	subtle. They're not like smack in your face, oh my god, this guy's a serial cheater or this guy's
1:07.2	a murderer. It's like sometimes you spot really subtle red flags where you're not sure if they're
1:13.3	actually a big deal or not. So then you tend to just wave them and you tend to just ignore them
1:18.3	because you still like the person. But as I just said, the red flags you spot in the beginning,
1:26.1	even if their subtle are usually the reason you're going to end the relationship later or you're
1:30.8	going to have problems in the relationship later down the road. If someone is showing you
1:35.3	warning signs early on in the dating phase of your relationship, especially within the first
1:39.7	month or two and you're still going to proceed with the relationship because you're hoping things
1:44.2	will change or you're hanging on to the potential of it, just proceed with caution. Okay,
1:49.6	that's the best advice I can give. I'm not going to tell you to end it because I'm not going to
1:53.3	tell you what to do with your life, but I will say proceed with caution and just be aware of it.
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