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🗓️ 26 June 2023
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Dating yourself instead. What does dating yourself really mean? I'm in London right now, and I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone. Here's a full breakdown of how I've recently started to date myself, take myself out and dive into a brand new timeline to change my life and open my heart up to the idea of meeting new people. When you go through a breakup, it can be difficult to put yourself out there and learn how to be alone, so this episode covers everything you need to know.
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0:00.0 | So I'm in London right now and I decided to take a genuine leap of faith and go out by myself the other night. |
0:06.0 | It was a Friday night. I just landed. I was super jet lagged and I was so off on my sleep schedule and I could not sleep. |
0:14.0 | I usually do not do this. This is kind of out of character for me. |
0:18.0 | I love taking myself to dinner but to actually go out after dinner hours is a really big deal for me, especially if I'm by myself in a foreign country. |
0:26.0 | Now I also pride myself on stepping out of my comfort zone often. I feel like that's the only way you're really able to grow outside of what you're comfortable with. |
0:37.0 | Just being able to immerse yourself in new experiences that you've never really had before that might freak you out or scare you or give you a little bit of anxiety. |
0:46.0 | And I was super excited to go but at the same time I was definitely nervous and I think I always get questions in my DMs like how do you go out by yourself? |
0:55.0 | How do you travel alone and the truth is I have a ton of anxiety while I'm doing these things. |
1:00.0 | But once you actually take the step and the initiative to do it, you start to adjust and it starts to become easier over time. |
1:08.0 | But needless to say, I was still a little nervous. So I went to my hotel lobby at first and I did my makeup, I did my hair, and I was just really feeling different. |
1:21.0 | I realized that I hadn't really been taking care of myself physically lately. |
1:25.0 | Like I never wear makeup, I always wear sweatpants and that's okay because I love being comfortable and there's nothing wrong with that. |
1:33.0 | But sometimes it just feels really good to dress up and put a little makeup on. |
1:37.0 | So I did that and I don't typically drink but this was a special occasion because I was in London for the first time in a really long time on my own. |
1:48.0 | And celebrating the first time I really felt like I could open myself up to a new experience or the idea of meeting new friends or the idea of just maybe talking to someone new. |
1:59.0 | As you know, when you go through a really, really serious breakup, it can be really hard to jump out of your comfort zone and jump back into the dating scene and jump back into the social world and actually try to meet new people and try to make new friends. |
2:14.0 | And it can be hard because you're sad and it can be hard because you're having trouble letting go of what you had with this person and when you're in a relationship, it starts to get super comfortable. |
2:25.0 | And then you don't want to socialize or do anything because you're so used to having that person be with you for everything. |
2:32.0 | So it can be tricky, it can be very hard. |
2:34.0 | And for me, it was a really hard transition to even break out of that mentality like I'm never going to meet anyone else. |
2:40.0 | I don't want to speak to anyone else. |
2:42.0 | Guys or girls, I just didn't really want to socialize because I was super sad all the time. |
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