The Real Reason We Started an Open Relationship

LOVERS by Shan

Lemonada Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

5.0 • 5.7K Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2026

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Lovers, I’m joined by my husband Jared Brady to tell the story of the exact day we decided to call our relationship an open relationship. Want to take the Relationship Style quiz I mentioned in the episode? Click HEREhttps://www.loversbyshan.com/quizzes In this episode, Shan Boodram and Jared Brady share intimate details from the early days of their relationship that led to them choosing to label their love as an open relationship. If your first reaction to “open relationship” is “so… cheating?” you’re not alone, and this conversation is also for you. Cheating isn’t about a specific behavior, it’s about breaking the rules of the relationship you agreed to play by, which is why it’s important to clearly define YOUR rules together. This episode explores why people seek structured relationships even without exclusivity, what commitment actually looks like when it isn’t defined by romantic restriction, and how accountability, emotional safety, partnership, and love can exist outside traditional scripts. This isn’t an episode about convincing anyone to open their relationship. It’s about clarity, consent, and understanding why the rules matter more than the label. MasterClassHave you taken my MasterClass yet? New subscribers get access to my class and hundreds of others starting at $10 per month. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. Follow JaredInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbradyYouTube → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKVWwEy39GLNzKXXt9v46TA Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Lemonada
0:02.0	Everyone's talking about 2016, right?
0:08.0	Well, for us, that year was intense.
0:11.0	You're telling you going out what it do?
0:13.0	I tell him everything.
0:14.0	Man, look here.
0:16.0	This is some new mess right.
0:19.0	You don't need to teach no class. You need to be quiet.
0:21.6	And let's be more assertive, especially as women and as young women, about how we feel celebrated.
0:26.6	I feel like that's a dangerous message to give.
0:29.6	When Jared and I shared that we were in an open relationship,
0:32.6	everyone seemed to have an opinion, projections, but few people had the earnest question. Well, how did you
0:39.3	come to that decision? So today, for the first time ever, we're going to tell that story.
0:45.4	Shan and I, like, always described our relationship in the beginning as friends with benefits.
0:50.2	There was a moment where the lines got kind of blurred.
0:55.0	It's not that I was keeping it secret, per se.
0:57.0	If we didn't discuss the dynamics of our relationship,
1:01.0	it could get disrespectful.
1:05.0	So when it actually did happen, it wasn't quite as smooth.
1:09.0	And I didn't think that we would be back together.
1:11.7	Nah, dog. This is done. Why is it making me emotional?
1:18.4	Hi there, lovers. My favorite quote is the key to happiness is managing expectation. So,
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