You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey, it's Michelle. Last week we talked about trust and I'm going to cover the topic again this week but I'm going to talk about the dangers and kind of the dark side of what it looks like when we love someone

struggling with addiction and there's a lack of trust in the relationship.

So if you haven't listened to last week's episode, definitely check it out.

It will help make this episode make more sense.

But you can still listen if you're like, no, Michelle, I don't feel like picking up my phone and

Going and sifting through back all the podcast that's totally cool. You're gonna be just fine listening to this now. But all right, so when we love someone that

struggles with addiction, there's definitely an issue of trust, right? More so than I think other relationships,

because in order for addiction to survive,

it has to lie.

It has to lie to you.

It can't come home and say, and I usually refer to addiction as a third party. That's why I say it.

For those of you that are new to the podcast, there's you, there's your loved one, and there's this third entity in

your relationship, which is addiction. And I kind of do that because I think it's helpful to not oversimplify by combining our loved one and the addiction

into one person. I think we loved that we fell in love with the one person and all of their

potential because we see who they truly are, but it also can result in a lot of pain because there's this third entity in our relationship

called addiction.

Okay, so now that I've kind of given that disclaimer,

when you love someone suffering with its addiction,

addiction needs to lie in order for it to survive.

So addiction is not to like tell you, oh yeah, I was out drinking and getting

wasted with my buddies. I had seven shots of tequila or addiction is not going to say oh yeah this is

rum and coke no it's gonna say no it's just coke you're crazy like this is just

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