The Psychology of Why We Chase People Who Are WRONG for Us | Matt Monday

Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, 971900, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 29 September 2025

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

What if the reason your relationships haven’t worked isn’t about who you’ve been with, but about what’s been missing? In this episode with journalist and author Liz Moody, we explore why finding someone who truly understands you is far more important than a checklist of traits.

We also talk about why we’re drawn to the wrong people, and how to break free from those patterns. If you’ve ever felt stuck in love or wondered why you keep ending up in the same painful cycles, this is the episode for you.

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1:04.4	One of the things that I love about your work is that you really talk about the dynamics of a couple together. So you're not supposed to be looking for check, check, check, check, check, this in a person, this in a person, this and a person. So when you're saying, oh, my ex is this or if they were this in five years, really it's about how are you two interacting together in the relationship. And that's a much more tricky dynamic to say,
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