The Psychology of Love, Heartbreak, and Healing | Guy Winch EP 807

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 960 Ratings

🗓️ 22 November 2024

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

"Love is an addiction. That's why the withdrawal of love is the form of withdrawal." - Guy Winch Renowned psychologist Guy Winch reveals startling insights about the science of love and heartbreak, comparing romantic withdrawal to substance addiction. Drawing from extensive research and clinical experience, he explores how quickly we become emotionally dependent on potential partners, often with minimal information. His frank discussion of how the brain processes romantic loss highlights a critical gap in society - while we have support systems for substance withdrawal, heartbreak is often dismissed, especially in adults. The conversation delves deeper into the fascinating psychology of falling in love, challenging common assumptions about choice and timing. Winch explains how we construct elaborate fantasies from limited data points, often falling for our imagined version of someone before truly knowing them. His practical insights into relationship dynamics, from first fights to travel compatibility, offer listeners valuable perspective on building lasting connections and understanding their own patterns in love.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:12.5	Brain studies have shown that the withdrawal from romantic love activates the same mechanisms
0:19.8	in our brain as when addicts are withdrawing
0:22.7	from substances.
0:24.0	I don't know if that's from your TED Talk or on your website, but that seems fascinating
0:28.7	to me that the same type of withdrawal from a relationship from love is similar to an
0:35.0	addict from substances. Which one do you think is harder to heal from?
0:41.3	Someone going through substance abuse or someone going through a breakup?
0:46.3	Look, first of all, we have services for people who go through substance abuse.
0:52.3	There's a lot of medical care available.
0:54.6	There's medications available.
0:56.7	There's support available.
0:58.8	Much less so for romantic heartbreak,
1:01.1	especially if you're an adult,
1:02.3	especially if you're older, you know,
1:03.7	than your 20s where you're supposed to be over it,
1:06.6	where these things are for kids kind of thing.
1:08.3	And so you find then that you're going through a ridiculously difficult experience.
1:13.4	And people are looking at you like, come on, it's been a week.
1:16.8	Right.
1:17.7	You know, and you would not say that to somebody who's, you know, coming off opioids.
1:22.9	But what's interesting to me is it actually starts before the heartbreak when people begin to fall in love.
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