All right, man, welcome back to The Man Talk Show. I am Connor Beaton. And this show, in case you are new,

in case you're new to the channel, the Man Talk Show is all about bettering yourself as a man,

whether you are trying to be a better husband, father, leader, or you're just trying to develop

a deeper sense of self-respect. Now, on that note, what we are going to talk about today,

which you could probably tell by the title, is the importance of self-recognition and how you

actually go about doing this. So one of the things that I've been talking quite a bit about

lately, you know, you probably have heard a lot about nice guy syndrome, right? And nice guys are needy

and nice guys, you know, seek validation from women and et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

One of the things that's not necessarily talked about is that that neediness, that seeking

a validation from women is happening because that's a trait or a skill that that man is lacking within

himself or at the very least it's a skill and a trait that is woefully underdeveloped.

And so there's a tremendous amount of value in you as a man developing a sense of self-recognition. And this can be really hard.

You know, for a lot of years, I was incredibly, incredibly harsh with myself. And I wouldn't give

myself any credit. No matter what I accomplished, no matter what I achieved, no matter how good

something was, I just would not give myself recognition. And this was incredibly

damaging and detrimental to my sense of confidence, my capacity of knowing the impact that I had

under the people, my ability to see where I was influential, where I had strengths, where I was contributing to others. And what it led to,

in general, was me doing the nice guy thing, which was seeking out validation and attention

from women. So why does this happen? Why do we as men operate in a way where we lack a sense of self-recognition?

Well, we could probably go down a number of different rabbit holes, right? Like maybe you're a man

who grew up with a really abusive parent or a really critical parent who is constantly

criticizing you and telling you nothing was ever good enough and, you know,

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