You know as the years go by it's amazing how some things you once thought were a big deal

suddenly don't seem so important. When your child faces disappointment it's a good

thing to remind them to have some perspective

and to recognize it's going to be okay.

Now we've got to lean in and acknowledge what they're feeling.

I think I was guilty, Danny, of just kind of glossing over the bad feelings that they were experiencing,

but I've learned to lean into that moment, affirm the child's feelings, and then help them get the perspective that they can't get.

They're just stuck right now. Well I'm John Fuller joined by my friend and

focus colleague Dr. Danny Werta and Matt and Lisa Jacobson have offered some

excellent ideas in previous episodes on ways to

encourage your son or daughter especially when they're facing a challenge and

let's go ahead and hear some of that conversation that Jim Daly and I had with them.

You know, so often as parents, we forget, even though we went through it,

when we were teenagers at 13 to 17 year old stage,

when that ZIT appears on your face and you're going,

it's all falling apart.

This is the end of the world.

I can't go to the dance.

I'm never going to get married.

I'm never going to have children.

I mean, you're going, what? That's a good time to hug your child.

But it's this perspective that you've got to be able to bring as the parent without judgment or you know just that wrap around to say you know what it's

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