Correcting a Counterfeit
Focus on the Family Parenting Podcast
Focus on the Family
4.4 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 9 November 2021
⏱️ 11 minutes
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Summary
"You need more things!" "You need to do more activities with your kids!" These are the lies our culture shouts at us. But believing them will do more harm to your family than good. John and Danny discuss how simplifying your schedule can bring more peace into your home. Featuring Mike Berry.
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| 0:00.0 | There's a big lie in the culture that says more stuff makes you happier, but you have noticed |
| 0:07.8 | I'm sure that more things do not bring happiness, they actually bring more stress in many ways. The truth is we can only |
| 0:14.7 | have and handle so much. I'm John Fuller in the studio with Dr. Danny |
| 0:19.0 | Werta. He's in charge of our parenting and youth department here at Focus on the Family and |
| 0:23.6 | Jim Daly and I talked with author and parenting coach Mike Berry about a time when he |
| 0:29.7 | learned to simplify his life and let go of some of the stuff. Now in a previous |
| 0:34.8 | episode Mike had shared about four unhealthy parenting styles and those were |
| 0:39.6 | Dreamer, BFF, commander and instructor, let's go ahead and listen into more. |
| 0:45.0 | Mike, you've said you're a dreamer and I appreciate that. I think I tend to lean in that |
| 0:51.6 | direction. I'm kind of confused. I'm not sure I'm parts of all of this but but in that dreamer capacity you described your own family as a counterfeit I'm curious about that what does that mean to you and how did you correct being a counterfeit? |
| 1:06.5 | Well, I will say this. I'm a dreamer mixed with BFF because I never want to disappoint people. I'm an eternal people pleaser. |
| 1:13.0 | So that's been a big struggle for me. |
| 1:15.5 | Back in 2014, we were living in a, |
| 1:20.5 | I had a really, really good job. |
| 1:22.4 | I was living in a really nice big suburban home and yet while we had all of these things all of this material these material possessions and we were we were really living the the so-called |
| 1:36.5 | American dream our kids were falling apart as I often describe it when I'm speaking |
| 1:41.9 | on this topic in particular we had a lot of clutter in our lives. |
| 1:46.5 | Material possessions, mixed up priorities, and yet we realized that our kids were just floundering, they were drowning. |
| 1:53.7 | Part of that had to do with, we were parenting children who had significant trauma history |
| 2:00.0 | as foster and adoptive parents, so that was a big contributing factor. |
| 2:05.0 | But then at the heart of it, we had just lost connection with our kids. |
| 2:10.0 | And in the middle of this, there was a couple of other contributing factors, but in the middle of this, we decided to do something that was very counterculture to the upscale suburban culture we lived in, and that was, we just decided to sell this big suburban house and move to this I think the house was like 4500 square feet with a finished basement |
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