The Pitfalls of Self-Help: Comparison and The Secret

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 27 July 2020

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

In the second episode related to the pitfalls of self-help, we explore how individuals and environments can manipulate others by making them feel like something is wrong with them. This is a self-help podcast. And there's a lot to like about self-help! But it has it's issues as well. Today we're exploring our exploration of those issues by focusing on painful forms of comparison and the natural vs. supernatural frame. Key Topics: 2:45: Being goal directed vs. self-acceptance. 6:50: Exploitative practices and the fragile psyche. 10:20: Relating to “problems” in healthy ways. 14:20: Comparison and creating a sense of lack. 16:30: Identifying good teachers and communities. 21:30: Comparison. 24:00: Separating means and ends. 26:00: How to deal with comparison. 30:30: How much do we actually control? 33:00: The Secret, and the natural vs. supernatural frames. 39:15: Cheapening the truly transcendent. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. From Dr. Hanson: Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. From our Sponsors Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hansen. Thanks for taking the time to listen today.
0:08.0	I'm joined today as usual by Dr. Rick Hansen and Rick is a clinical psychologist and best-selling author who
0:15.1	spent over 35 years teaching people the key lessons from psychology and
0:19.1	contemplative practice that lead to a good life and I'm also happy to say that he happens to be my dad.
0:25.0	So, dad, how are you doing today?
0:27.0	Well, that's kind, thank you.
0:28.0	I'm listening and speaking with a window that's open,
0:32.0	and once in a while people might hear a dog barking in the distance but it's a
0:37.2	happy dog with my good and happy neighbors.
0:40.0	Just stream of consciousness?
0:45.0	Well, I just, I actually think this is a teaching.
0:51.0	I think it's really helpful just to acknowledge what's going on and to let people know might be alarmed like is the dog being hurt or what are the neighbors like or you know, it's all all okay it's kind of like establishing a
1:04.2	foundation of normalcy like it's basic okayness basic enoughness which might
1:10.3	have a relationship with what we hope to talk about with each other today?
1:14.8	Hey, I mean, I'm sure it's a great dog. There is nothing problematic going on with the dog. I wasn't personally
1:20.6	worried about that, but maybe somebody else was.
1:23.7	And yeah, as you're saying, maybe that serves as something of a segue into our topic today.
1:29.1	We're going to be continuing our maybe series, maybe just a couple of episodes, we'll kind of see how far we go down the
1:35.0	rabbit hole here on the quote-unquote dark side of self-help, basically the various ways in which
1:42.0	self-help, personal growth, personal development can become problematic
1:45.6	or even unhealthy for different kinds of people. In the first episode we spoke about forced
1:51.2	positivity and the way in which self-help and personal growth
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