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Welcome to another episode of The Overwhelmed Brain.

I'm going to talk about how sometimes we get into a circumstance or a situation that we don't want.

And then we find ourselves blaming the outside world for getting into that circumstance when maybe, just maybe, it was because of the decisions that we made earlier in life.

And it's really how it is, isn't it?

We make these decisions.

And then every decision that we make leads to the next outcome for ourselves.

Somebody wrote to me and says, I have a question about a relationship with my husband.

We got married young, we had babies young, we were married or have been married for a good two decades,

and we left a culty religion,

and now we're realizing who we are and what we really want.

It's hard.

My question is about the unhealthy dynamic we have around my husband's career,

and me having sacrificed mine for the family.

He has always been very, or he's had an unstable relationship with his employer, and he always

has, and he either thinks he's going to get fired or he wants to quit, but he's generally

miserable no matter what.

I feel like he dumps a lot of this on me with an I never wanted this life and you're

lucky I'm here vibe. This is very similar to the feeling I got from my father growing up and makes me

feel like I'm in constant debt like I don't deserve to live or enjoy anything. Consequently, I don't

know if he's dishing it out or I'm creating it.

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